Thursday, July 14, 2011

virtual coffee?????

I have seen virtual coffee posts before but I don't know who exactly started the idea. I did a google search, so as to give credit to the person who invented the idea, but tons of different blogs and other sites popped up. Therefore, credit is given to anyone who has ever done a virtual coffee post!

Today, I really want to have coffee with my friend, Alexis over at ppppffffftttttt! But, I have been completely swamped and don't have the time to actually meet her for coffee. So, Alexis, let's meet for coffee two lines down.

Hi friend!! So, I just read your most recent post on the bachelorette, which is just hilarious, as always, and even funnier that I read every word and I don't even watch that show! What?! Seriously, I just love reading your blog. You are so witty.

Ok, so the part about finding completeness in God alone is so right on. I've finally realized and understood this year all kinds of revelations like this that have really made life easier. Easier in the sense that I've taken expectations off of people and looked to God to fulfill my needs. Anyway, I feel like we are on the same page there.

Have you read Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas? Probably not. You gotta get it and read it. Best book ever. Changed my life. Changed my marriage.

To be completely honest though, I've been totally stressed out lately. My mom gave me some good advice...She said I just needed to feel what I was feeling, pray about it, and accept the lesson I was being taught. A couple days later, I woke up and decided that I was done stressing. I realized I can only do what I can do when I can do it. Sounds like an easy lesson. But for an overachiever like myself, this is a hard lesson to accept.

I realized that this week, I got overwhelmed and I wasn't looking to God for perspective.

Do you ever feel like that? Do you forget to look to God sometimes? Why is it so hard to remember? Actually, I know the answer to that. We are human. We are not perfect. We never will be. There. I've accepted it. After almost 29 years.

I think sometimes we aren't ready to learn a lesson. My friend, Casey, told me that no one ever told her what marriage was really like. I agreed with her. Why did no one tell us? She recently talked with her pastor and told him the same thing. He said something that has really stuck with me. He said that sometimes we just aren't ready to hear a lesson. He said that people probably did tell us the reality of marriage. We weren't ready to hear it. We didn't want to hear it. How many other lessons have I not been ready to hear?

What have you learned in your marriage? What have you learned this year?

Something I have learned from the blogging community is that it's so important to lean on each other and lift each other up. To encourage each other. To ask honest questions. Real questions. Hard questions. What is a friendship without that? I'm glad I can talk to you about these things.

Let's do this again soon!